How Am I Supposed to Do This Without You?
There are questions that belong to the living and questions that belong to the heart. They're not always the same. The living asks practical things. Who'll make the coffee? Who knows where the insurance papers are? Who remembers the name of that restaurant we loved on the coast? The heart asks only one question, over and over, until the years themselves grow tired of hearing it. How am I supposed to do this without you? It arrives in the grocery store when you reach for two of something instead of one. It sits beside you in the car where no one is sitting. It follows you into the house at dusk, when the rooms remember footsteps better than they remember silence. No one teaches you the answer because no one can. Everyone who has loved deeply must discover it alone. At first, you think the answer must be courage. Then you think it must be faith. Later, you believe it is simply endurance, the quiet discipline of putting one foot in front of the other while carrying an absence ...